Questions for: Dancing with my Father

Jo Sorochinsky

 

  1. What were your overall impressions of the book?
  2. What surprised you most about Ans's story?
  3. What emotions did the memoir leave you with?
  4. Jo believes that understanding her father's past is essential to understanding herself. Do you agree that our parents' histories shape our own identities?
  5. Why do you think Ans resisted sharing his story for so many years?
  6. How did growing up with family secrets affect Jo's childhood and adulthood?
  7. Were there moments when you sympathized more with Jo than with her father—or vice versa?
  8. How did silence function as both a form of protection and a source of pain?
  9. Do you think there are circumstances where keeping painful family history private is justified?
  10. How did learning about Vienna before and during Nazi rule deepen your understanding of Ans's experiences?
  11. What did the memoir teach you about the impact of the Holocaust beyond those who experienced it directly?
  12. How does this personal story make history feel different from reading a textbook?
  13. How would you describe the relationship between Jo and her father? How did it evolve over time?
  14. What role did Jo's mother play in protecting—or preserving—the family's silence?
  15. Which relationship in the book did you find most compelling, and why?
  16. Do you think Ans ever truly found peace with his past?
  17. What does forgiveness mean in the context of this memoir? Is forgiveness always necessary for healing?
  18. How did writing the book appear to change Jo's relationship with her father?
  19. How effective was Sorochinsky's blend of memoir, family history, and historical research?
  20. Were there passages or scenes that stood out to you as particularly powerful?
  21. Did the book make you think differently about your own family history or the stories that have—or haven't—been shared?